gayman with Psoriasis, Not great!

[Heyoka]

Is there any other Gay men out there that have to deal with this form of self-esteem hellish experience? It very difficult to deal with being in the prim of my life, I'm goodlooking and the gay community talks like hens! I have becom the untouchable. I have a severe case and hopefully soon this week I will be getting the green light to start "Soriatane". Has nayone tried this medication or if there are anyother Gay men out there who can relate. Get back and Boost my ego!!

[Chasesmommy]

Hi heyoko!! So nice to meet you sorry under the circumstances, but anyhow my son is 4yrs old and has been on soriatane 10mg daily since he was 3. I must tell you my experience with it has been great. After 1 month his lessions where not as red and after 2 months he was 100% clear. He does have tests monthly to make sure there are no underlying side effects. My best advise is to watch depression recently they raised my sons dose due to a few lessions coming back and he cried alot and wanted to know about death. From a 4yr old this was scary as soon as we lowered his dose back down this subsided. I have a friend with P and he is gay so I know what you mean by hean pecking. People act like ihis p has something to do with being gay, and in his case it does not he as had P since a young child. People act out of fear, I guess if we try to understand this fear it may make it easier to deal with. If u have any questions I am hear and let me know how Soriatane goes not many people in this community are on it, and there are people that don't agree with me letting my son at 3yrs start treatment, but walk a mile in my shoes and see what you would do. Good luck Jen

[lpagano]

Hi Heyoka:

Welcome to the boards, sorry to hear you are having a rough time. I am not gay, but back a few months ago, someone was looking for more gay members on the board, do a search and you should come up with the thread. Many people have great success with soriatane, I hope you do to. Gay or straight, p is no fun. You have come to a great place, many will be along with advice. Hang in there.

[Raven77]

Hello,

Although not gay myself, my life has been blessed by many a gay presence :) Im mid twenties girl and I feel I can relate to your deflated ego and the chattering hen house. I got psoriasis at the worst point in my life--after breaking off 6 year relationship, and trying to date again. I felt NEGATIVE cute. And once being considered and attractive girl this was a huge blow. Also I was living in NYC so there is alot of pressure in dating looking good etc. Now that my p has subsided I think it actually taught me the age old lesson...looks arent eveything blah blah blah. But actually, you would be suprised how many people aren't as freaked out by the crazy rash as you might think. I thought I would send many guys heading for the hills, but I think so many people these days have had a bout with some sort of skin disorder (exzema, or hives, acne) that people will overlook and still think you are hot.

[sarahincanada]

Is there any other Gay men out there that have to deal with this form of self-esteem hellish experience? It very difficult to deal with being in the prim of my life, I'm goodlooking and the gay community talks like hens! I have becom the untouchable. I have a severe case and hopefully soon this week I will be getting the green light to start "Soriatane". Has nayone tried this medication or if there are anyother Gay men out there who can relate. Get back and Boost my ego!!

thats so bad that they would react like that!!! I know a lot of gay men and I know appearance can be so important, sometimes seems more than in hetro relationships, but not everyone is going to be put off by your p surely!
start spreading the word that you might be scaley but have a lot to offer ;-)

[sarahincanada]

Hello,

Although not gay myself, my life has been blessed by many a gay presence :) Im mid twenties girl and I feel I can relate to your deflated ego and the chattering hen house. I got psoriasis at the worst point in my life--after breaking off 6 year relationship, and trying to date again. I felt NEGATIVE cute. And once being considered and attractive girl this was a huge blow. Also I was living in NYC so there is alot of pressure in dating looking good etc. Now that my p has subsided I think it actually taught me the age old lesson...looks arent eveything blah blah blah. But actually, you would be suprised how many people aren't as freaked out by the crazy rash as you might think. I thought I would send many guys heading for the hills, but I think so many people these days have had a bout with some sort of skin disorder (exzema, or hives, acne) that people will overlook and still think you are hot.

when I was single I used to feel like I was living a bit of a lie, that someone looking at me would think Im very attractive, but get me naked theyd see all this scaly skin! Id date attractive guys that I thought would never accept my psoriasis. Well Im married now and my hubby is wonderful and barely seems to notice my scaly skin as he's too busy looking at other parts LMAO!!!

[radm]

Is there any other Gay men out there that have to deal with this form of self-esteem hellish experience? It very difficult to deal with being in the prim of my life, I'm goodlooking and the gay community talks like hens! I have becom the untouchable. I have a severe case and hopefully soon this week I will be getting the green light to start "Soriatane". Has nayone tried this medication or if there are anyother Gay men out there who can relate. Get back and Boost my ego!!
Hi there heyoka how are you im a gay man with psoriasis had this condition since my childhood years in my early 20s it was at its peak i would say i was covered 70 percent but now at 31y old i have known how to control it i am around 30 percent now i am on neoral which i find really helps me well i take that for 6 months and then do light treatment for 6 months time and determination will keep it under control.dont know any gay men with this condition i would really like to get to know you would send you pics if you would like.here is my email raedmourad@hotmail.com

looking foward.

[Paco386]

Hi Heyoka,

I just found this thread and wanted to say HI and welcome. Never had occasion on the boards to come out as a gay man, but now I suppose is as good a time as any. Hope I can be of support to you and any others like us living with this condition.

[TJM718]

I'm an openly gay man and am 42-years-old. I got plague psoriasis at 14. I came out at 21 and was clear due to UVB. I had a nice, long run of being clear. Now at 42 I'm having a very hard time clearing a guttate break-out. Yeah, it makes me self-conscious. Yeah, it makes me depressed. Yeah, I don't want to go out to parties because I meet someone and then say, "Hey, wait, don't bother. Your skin is a mess." But I'm working on all that and trying to keep a positive attitude. Hang in there.

[akronukid21]

I myself am in a situation very close you yours. I'm a pretty good looking guy and I try to keep myself trim etc. I read a lot of posts especially on Saturday nights when all my friends are out having a blast and I'm "sick" again and won't give any more explaination than that. It's harder for us because as I'm sure you know gay guys are very concerned with the way we look and the way others precieve us. I can't imagine anything as awful as this condition and would never wish something like this on my worst enemy. Sometimes it will go away for months at a time and just when I think I might have isolated the "trigger" it comes back stronger than ever. I try to keep hope alive but sometimes it can be difficut. It has runined relationships and has made me very self consincious. I'm going to have another beer but fire me off and email at BradKarl@hotmail.com if you want to chat some more. Maybe we could help each other through it.

[MaryJean713]

I am so glad to see all the gays coming out on the board! Now the board truely feels like home!

I know that the gay community is very physical-centric. But yall should know that is not the entire community. If I had to bet, there are lots more gay men (and women) with P, they are just way to scared to come out with it.

Good luck guys,
MJ

[MaryJean713]

P.S. I think that this thread should be duplicated into the "living with psoriasis and psoriatic arthritis" forum so it can get more exposure. I don't know how to do that- so if anyone comes along that does- please duplicate it.

There have to be more gay people with P, maby if more people see it, yall can get more help.

[garzajams]

It's great to see a gay response! I've only had psoriasis for 9 months... but it feels like years! I'm with a really great guy who has no issues with psoriasis and is very supportive. I'm very lucky for that. Still... I hate for anyone to see my skin as it is now, even him.

[MikeCa]

Greeting to all:

I am glad to see that we have small gay/psoriasis community developing here. A few years back I posted thred seeking another gay people with aim to have friends who can share similar life experiences. Being gay and having psoriasis can be tough at times but I was blessed in life to have met great people and have a very supportive partner and friends. Throughout my life I learnt that those who are too much concerned about their physical apperance do not have much deep inside and they are not worth of your time. We all deserve much better.
Cheers,

MikeCa

[chavez]

I can say from experience...divorced, 28 year old male...only been divorced (4 years in June), but I got P about 2 years ago...so it's tough trying to get back on the dating train for anyone...confidence now is shot, and i never know how to approach it. My scalp is obvious as are my nails...so i still fight it...anyhow, it's the same for everyone...regardless of sexual preference.

[cassandra]

my bff is gay and has p....but he's a big loser and hasn't been on here in a while....the gay community isn't all shallow....cause he's engaged (until gay marriage becomes legal......i'm the..uh...best "man").

and maybe i'm the odd one out....but i've never had issues with dating....maybe it's the fact that i developed an overpowering personality because of my p.....

if any of y'all ever need someone to talk to...i'm almost always online and all my SNs are in my profile...

[lpagano]

Hope you "yunguns" don't mind an old lady hopping in here. One of the things that makes me the saddest is coming on here and seeing all of the young people who feel any type of relationship is impossible because of the pa and p. I have been married twice, both times to men who did not have p or pa. Before my marriages I dated as well. I have never had any relationship problems due to p. When I met my second husband I was about 85% covered. I guess I would just like you all to know (straight and gay) that there are people out there who don't care about your p/pa, who will want you for yourself. I think we (P people) sometimes put up barriers to keep people away because we think they will reject us. P runs in my family, mom, grandfather, several cousins. We all married non p people in fact not one p member in my family is not married! Ooops I take that back, my 36 year old son with pa/p is not married, but has been living with his girlfriend for 10 years in a very commited relationship.

[MC Esquire]

I totally know what you mean. As a gay young (23) man, psoriasis can really put a hamper on your life, both socially and sexually. I have guttate psoriasis that likes to flare up at the beginning of spring when I want to wear shorts and t-shirts :( . I've never taken Psoriatane, but I have taken accutane for both my P and acne, and the dermatologist said that it's almost identical to psoriatane. It worked great for me.

[randymb]

hi to all. hhmmm. im randy. anyone whom i can be my friend here.

[futur3l0ver]

Yes, I'm a big homosexual as well, and it's been a S-L-O-W summer thanks to my guttate. I don't think I could handle being rejected because of it, so I just don't go with anyone.

Any of you lads want to hit me up on MSN go ahead - futur3l0ver@hotmail.com

[grant1971]

Hey,

Can totally understand your situation. I would like to chat to other guys who have psoriasis. My msn address is gtduff28@hotmail.com add me and say hi.

grant

[matty66]

Hi guys im Matt , 41 and have been living with P for many years. I have been in a relationship for 10 years. There are people out there that do understand, and even though my partner does act funny about it I dont let it get me down. I say let all the gay men or women with Psoriasis unite and let the ones judging know were mad as H and aint gonna take it nomore!!!!!!!

[clementinecannibal]

i'm a queer grrrl with it!

[MegaBear]

Hello to you all , I am TJ 42 gay man and living with psoriasis that has turn into psoriatic arthritis and have tried all of the meds ,vitamins, creams ,ect, with clearing at times and flaring at other times, a battle that never seems to end , learning and going on day by day, most people dont understand what we deal with trying to hide are psoriasis and go on with life , and know how much pain there can be with it also,i know just getting out of bed is a task, but i just get up and go on, maybe just maybe they will find a cure and with all of us standing up and being heard we might just do that !!!!!! at least we have the National Psoriasis Foundation and others trying to find that cure, ps... hang in there i know it is hard, TJ , Hulksterbear70@aol.com

[mikey67]

Hello, the name is Mike. I'm 40, from Cape Town in South Africa and I happen to be gay too :)
I've had psoriasis since my early teens, but the past year it has been at its worst ever. This is the first summer I haven't been out in a pair of shorts!

[matty66]

hi im a 41 year old man and have lived with p for more than18 years and developed pa 2 years ago. Keep up your faith meds and excercise helped relieve my pa so keep on going,if you ever wan tot talk you can email me at matty66@insightbb.com

[TJM718]

I just want to say hello again. I'm glad to see there have been more responses to this thread as it's important. I'm kind of clear right now except for some small spots on my lower legs. Compared to this time last year and the year before I'm grateful. Happy New Years!!!!!

[rngmaster3257]

39 gdlking originally from Chicago .Looking for others with psoriasis for friends and maybe more . I have had psoriasis for 9 years , I got it after a house fire. I'm 6ft4 235 if your in Kansascity,MO and dealing with the same send me an e-mail ringmaster3257@aol.com

[RichJ]

hi rngmaster3257,
welcome to the p family. you have meet some of the wonderful people on here and will find alot of great info. welcome and nice to meet you.

have a good day all

richard